There is a variety of bamboo that grows in the far east called the Chinese Bamboo Tree. Once this seed is planted in the ground it must be watered and fertilized daily for a period of five years before it even breaks through the surface. That’s five years of watering one spot daily. Can you imagine returning day after day to the same patch of dirt not knowing if anything will ever show for all your efforts and doing that for half a decade? Here’s the thing though, once the Chinese Bamboo Tree breaks the surface after that fifth year, it grows 90 feet tall in just six weeks! So much growth happens in such a short amount of time that you can literally see it grow taller before your eyes. Sometimes it grows as much as four feet in a single day. So the question becomes how long does it take a Chinese Bamboo Tree to grow? Does it take just six weeks or five years?
Well the answer of course is that it takes five years to grow because at any point in time if the watering or fertilizing had ceased, then it would have certainly died in the ground. Going through a divorce has a similar lesson for us to remember. For a period of years you might not see any results from all your efforts to heal and move forward with your life post divorce. Your pain and all your problems will seem to linger and remain constant around you. Things will seem to stop and you’ll find yourself living like you’re on a treadmill. That’s why it’s so important to remember the lessons of the Chinese Bamboo Tree as you go through your divorce. If you fail to water and nurture yourself daily then your spirit might well just die in the ground and you’ll never see the vast growth potential that awaits you. Be kind to yourself; don’t continuously wallow in the past pining away for your lost homes, money, or even time. Focus instead on restoring yourself a little bit each day, then soon you’re gonna break through and grow so fast as a person that you’ll be amazed at the heights your new life will allow you to reach.The final lesson and real secret of the Chinese Bamboo Tree’s explosive sudden growth is not what can be seen above the surface, but what is actually happening beneath it. You see progress and growth was always being made since the seed was first sown five years ago. Though on the surface it may have seemed like nothing was happening, but underneath miles and miles of roots had been forming. Roots which had been growing deeper and deeper with each passing day; preparing themselves to support the vast growth that awaited above. Let your divorce be the same for you. Prepare yourself daily for the break through that will soon come. You will have some tough times ahead; times which will try your patience and your resolve as you seem to see no progress at all on the surface. But know that with each passing day your roots will be growing deeper and stronger and when the time is right, they will be more than ready to support the vast growth which awaits your new life.Further Reading: